New York Times Bestselling author, motivational speaker, spiritual leader, and podcast host
Gabrielle Bernstein is a New York Times Bestselling author, motivational speaker, spiritual leader, and podcast host. Bernstein has penned nine books, including The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor and the upcoming Happy Days (on sale February 2022). Bernstein teaches primarily from the text A Course In Miracles. She teaches a practical application of the Course's principles emphasizing self-love, forgiveness, and a holistic approach to spirituality. This started by hosting intimate conversations with 20 people in her New York City apartment and now Bernstein has grown into speaking to tens of thousands in sold-out venues throughout the world.
In 2009, Bernstein was featured in The New York Times as a "guru" for the next generation. Gabrielle was also featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “next-generation thought leader.” The Oprah Winfrey Network chose Gabrielle to be part of the “SuperSoul 100,” a dynamic group of trailblazers whose vision and life’s work are bringing a higher level of consciousness to the world.
In March 2020, Bernstein started a weekly hour-long Instagram Live show. People throughout the world would request to join to get “Dear Gabby’d” live in front of thousands of other viewers, asking questions about burnout, loss, relationships and everything in between. In Spring 2021, Gabrielle launched the Dear Gabby Podcast on all audio platforms and YouTube.
Gabrielle connects with her community through her books, her Miracle Membership, and her podcast Dear Gabby.
MotivationBring acceptance and compassionate self-talk. Say nice things to yourself - you're the only one listening. Tell yourself, I am doing the best I can.
PassionNeglecting passion blocks creative flow. When you're passionate, you're energized. Likewise, when you lack passion, your energy is low and unproductive. Energy is everything when it comes to being successful.
PassionAllow your passion to become your purpose, and it will one day become your profession.
HappinessI learned that real happiness doesn’t come from getting but from giving.
HappinessStress is actually the number one thing that blocks people from their happiness and well-being and from getting what they want.
HappinessHappiness is your choice. You can choose today.
HappinessI would suggest that the next generation stop looking for happiness outside of themselves but instead turn inward.
HappinessIt's very easy to look for happiness outside ourselves; in a relationship, a dream job, or the perfect body weight. When we chase happiness externally, we're simply looking for God in all the wrong places. The outside search is based on false projections we place on the world. These projections build up a wall against true happiness, which lies within us.
HappinessWhenever you notice your thoughts detour into attack mode, say out loud or to yourself: Happiness is a choice I make.
HappinessWhen we fulfill our function, which is to truly love ourselves and share love with others, then true happiness sets in.
FearWe're not going to stop trying to live big. It's about transforming your stress so that it doesn't take over. The first step is to realize that it is there and that you are trying to outrun your fear.
FearI've worked very hard to transform my fearful delusions into loving beliefs, and I am committed to maintaining this way of being.
FearFear and stress - one creates the other.
BooksFearMost people don't walk around the tools to process pain and fear, that kind of discomfort. In most cases, it's unbearable to look at it, feel it, and/or address it. It's why I'm such a fan of self-help books.
HappinessMindEach time we make this shift and choose happiness, we experience a miracle. Our mind shifts from fearful delusions and reconnects to our truth, which is love. Creating these shifts requires a dedicated commitment to choosing love.
FearMuch of our anxiety and stress comes when we're focused on fear and disconnected from the voice of our inner guide.
FearI’ve learned that fear is simply an illusion based on past experiences that we project into the present and onto the future.
LoveFearThe truth is that fear cannot coexist with love. Therefore, we must learn how to dissolve all boundaries with love by taking responsibility for our own energy. In doing so, we'll raise the energy around us.
SpeedWhen energy speeds up there is no space for playing small, and nothing can remain hidden.
Hard workMotivationWe associate stress with action, but how can you take action without stress? You take the right actions with a different energy. Yes, that might affect the speed at which you work or how much you get done in one day, but you'll probably get things done more efficiently.
I let go of my need to control and allow the Universe to do her thing.
There is a sense of urgency and this is a time for teachers and I think that there is this psychic awareness with this new generation of seekers that they are here to teach and so that they really need to wake up fast, much like we did, because we know that we must show up at a very high level and so therefore I think that there is an unconscious sense of urgency like I need to do this and not just for me, but for something greater and they may not be able to put that into words, but they are experiencing it.
For me, if I get up and don't meditate and don't eat something before having caffeine, I go from 0 to 10 on the stress scale.
When love is the trend, there is no room for violence and war.
I recommend free writing in the morning and the evening as a type of mental shower.
The more we tune into our own frequency of love, the more love will spread.
Letting yourself off the hook takes the stress away.
There is a massive call for more lightworkers, and now is our time to rise up and bring more positivity to the world.
By growing a spiritual practice, we are given all that we need.
If you clear that negative feeling and forgive yourself, then you can see the world from a different lens. You stop attracting that same type of experience. You can set yourself free.
What makes me vulnerable is speaking up about topics that may be controversial to others.
Learning presence is a stress buster.
Stressing and obsessing over your vision blocks it.
Have a vision but hold it lightly, wear it like a loose garment.
If you're living your life avoiding stress, you must be living on an ashram.
Your skin will get better, you're going to be more attractive, you're more likely to get a job - all the things you want, you will get as a result of being in a more calm place.
We're not really brought up in a culture where we believe we're meant to be happy, that peace is our birthright. It's not what we're taught; quite the opposite, actually. With all the expectations and the negative stories going on in the world, we have a lot to overcome.
You have to know your triggers for stress and then have rituals for combating them.
I think stress is an addiction. It can be tied to work addiction or busyness addiction or success addiction.
Let's begin creating miracles now.
I believe it is my duty to share the gifts I have learned. How dare I have the tools for finding serenity and not share them with the world?
Putting your well-being first - like putting your oxygen mask on before you help the person next to you - that really benefits all your relationships.
You must develop a rich inner life to enjoy life altogether.
What makes me most happy is connecting with others. I love meeting new people, being social, and engaging in empowering discussions.
True manifesting is allowing the universe to catch up with your dreams.
You'll realize the transformation is not for you alone. You'll learn that you're here to use this gift to shine light on the dark world around you. You become a miracle worker in the world. As you begin to understand how love is crucial to the healing of the world, your miracle work will take on a whole new meaning.
Joy is a big stress buster too. Measure your success by how much fun you're having.
Each person's energy matters.
If you're feeling stressed or anxious and you don't know why, ask yourself: What little thing led me here? Recently, I canceled on a friend because I was tired. I went to bed feeling stressed out, and I realized, I feel bad because I canceled.
Be real. That's part of being present.
If I jump out of bed without hugging my husband, that creates stress between us.
If you're stuck in traffic, call a friend or listen to a favorite podcast. If you're waiting in a long line, make friends with a person in line with you. There are lots of ways we can change the vibe.
Trust me when I say: Your commitment to love is crucial in the awakening of the world.
I am willing to see things differently. I am willing to see love.
Dreams are the way to unfulfilled wishes in the individual; visions are the way to unfulfilled dreams in mankind.
Right now we're in a special and powerful position, because the world is having a spiritual awakening.
On a piece of paper, write down the thing that is stressing you, the obstacle that is in your way. Then put it in a box and just leave it there. At the end of about a week, dispose of it - throw it in the trash or bury it - some sort of ritualistic act of releasing it.
When the masses begin to vibrate with an energy of love, the world will no longer be a container for war, violence, and lies.
So much of what holds us back in life are the long-held resentments stemming from childhood.
Even if you're just making a list of all the things you have to do, putting your pen to paper gets it out of your head. It puts you in this place of release.
Letting go of stress means that you can enjoy your life.
Being less stressed doesn't mean that you stop doing things.
If your stress is related to another person, finding forgiveness - changing your thoughts and energy around that person - can lower stress.
It’s time to let go, be guided and expect miracles.
First you have to witness that you are stressing out: Oh, my trigger is here. The news is stressing me out or This line is so long. Let yourself feel it. You don't want to spiritually bypass these problems. Give yourself a couple of minutes to sit in the feeling. Acceptance sets you free from the stress of expectation.
I feel very accomplished. It makes me feel great to know that I am impacting lives and of service to the world.
You let go of the past, and stop bringing the past into the present and replaying it into the future. You release guilt, shame, and you can create an entirely new pattern for yourself.
To begin your commitment to new perceptions, start by paying attention to attack thoughts toward yourself and others.
Resentment creates stress.
Repeating a new behavior is what makes change stick.
When you repeat a new pattern often, you literally change the neural pathways in your brain. This shift helps true change settle in.