Best quotes by Edna O'Brien

JealousyJealousy is the direct result of self-betrayal.

FearAll my life I had feared imprisonment, the nun's cell, the hospital bed, the places where one faced the self without distraction, without the crutches of other people.

FearFear is a dreadful drawback because it stops us living in the moment.

FearIrish Catholicism is very much founded on the stone of fear and of punishment.

FearThe other me, who did not mean to drown herself, went under the sea and remained there for a long time. Eventually she surfaced near Japan and people gave her gifts but she had been so long under the sea she did not recognize what they were. She is a sly one. Mostly at night we commune. Night. Harbinger of dream and nightmare and bearer of omens which defy the music of words. In the morning the fear of her going is very real and very alarming. It can make one tremble. Not that she cares. She is the muse. I am the messenger.

FearIt was the first time that I came face to face with madness and feared it and was fascinated by it.

FearWhat makes us so afraid is the thing we half see, or half hear, as in a wood at dusk, when a tree stump becomes an animal and a sound becomes a siren. And most of that fear is the fear of not knowing, of not actually seeing correctly.

I crossed the room, and what you did was to feel my hair over and over again and in different ways, touch it, with the palm of your hand... felt it, strands of hair, with your fingers, touched it as if it were cloth, the way a child touches its favorite surfaces.

Cities, in many ways, are the best repositories for a love affair. You are in a forest or a cornfield, you are walking by the seashore, footprint after footprint of trodden sand, and somehow the kiss or the spoken covenant gets lost in the vastness and indifference of nature. In a city there are places to remind us of what has been.

Countries are either mothers or fathers, and engender the emotional bristle secretly reserved for either sire.

never forget this moment, the hum of the bee, the saffron threads of the flower, the drawn blinds, nature's assiduousness and human cruelty.

I was lonelier than I should be, for a woman in love, or half in love.

In every question and every remark tossed back and forth between lovers who have not played out the last fugue, there is one question and it is this: Is there someone new?

Kindness. The most unkind thing of all.

Ideally I'd like to spend two evenings a week talking to Proust and another conversing with the Holy Ghost.

Writing is the product of a deeply disturbed psyche, and by no means therapeutic.

Life, after all, was a secret with the self. The more one gave out, the less there remained for the center--that center which she coveted for herself and recognized instantly in others. Fruits had it, the very heart of, say, a cherry, where the true worth and flavor lay. Some of course were flawed or hollow in there. Many, in fact.

August is a wicked month.

After that dark woman you search for someone who will fit into the irregular corners of your heart.

... we have so many voices in us, how do we know which ones to obey?

There was I, devouring books and yet allowing a man who had never read a book to walk me home for a bit of harmless fumbling on the front steps.

When something has been perfect, there is a tendency to try hard to repeat it.

Death in its way comes just as much of a surprise as birth.

What matters is the imaginative truth.

Oh, God, who does not exist, you hate women, otherwise you'd have made them different. And Jesus, who snubbed your mother, you hate them more.

... a country encapsulates our childhood and those lanes, byres, fields, flowers, insects, suns, moons and stars are forever reoccurring.

To live with the work and the letters of James Joyce was an enormous privilege and a daunting education. Yes, I came to admire Joyce even more because he never ceased working, those words and the transubstantiation of words obsessed him. He was a broken man at the end of his life, unaware that Ulysses would be the number one book of the twentieth century and, for that matter, the twenty-first.

I have always espoused chastity except when one can no longer resist the temptation.

She said the reason that love is so painful is that it always amounts to two people wanting more than two people can give.

it is not good to repudiate the dead because then they do not leave you alone, they are like dogs that bark intermittently at night.

Writers really live in the mind and in hotels of the soul.

...people liking you or not liking you is an accident and is to do with them and not you. That goes for love too, only more so.

Promiscuity is the death of love.

Books everywhere. On the shelves and on the small space above the rows of books and all along the floor and under chairs, books that I have read, books that I have not read.

I did not sleep. I never do when I am over-happy, over-unhappy, or in bed with a strange man.

What we forgot as children is that our parents are children, also. The child in them has not been satisfied or met or loved, often.

I always want to be in love, always. It's like being a tuning fork.

It's not the vote women need, we should be armed.

There are times when the thing we are seeing changes before our very eyes, and if it is a landscape we praise nature, and if it is celestial we invoke God, but if it is a loved one who defects, we excuse ourselves and say we have to be somewhere and are already late for our next appointment. We do not stay to put pennies over the half-dead eyes.

I am not kind, I cut people off as with shears and I drop them like nettles.

I have some women friends but I prefer men. Dont trust women. There is a built-in competition between women.

We hide the truer part of ourselves when we love.

You have to be lonely to be a writer

Writing is like carrying a fetus.

literature is the last banquet between minds.

IT WAS TESS who told me about the crowd going to the all-night dance. We'd been school friends. We'd picked mushrooms and pretended to have seen a big ship. She had got married since I went away; it was a made match, a man from the midlands, a Donal, who had worked in a garage but took to farming, out all day, draining fields and callows so that he could till them and sow corn.

Recollection is not something that I can summon up, it simply comes and I am the servant of it.

I am obsessive, also I am industrious. Besides, the time when you are most alive and most aware is in childhood and one is trying to recapture that heightened awareness.

My hand does the work and I dont have to think; in fact, were I to think, it would stop the flow. Its like a dam in the brain that bursts.

Later as the day cools and they have gone in, the cry of the corncrake will carry across those same fields and over the lake to the blue-hazed mountain, such a lonely evening sound to it, like the lonely evening sound of the mothers, saying it is not our fault that we weep so, it is nature's fault that makes us first full, then empty.

I know the mistake I am making. I see the exits in life.

Movie people are possessed by demons, but a very low form of demons.

She was an auxiliary nurse but training to be a true nurse because that was her calling, to serve mankind. She was a Martha. There were Marys and Marthas, but Marys got all the limelight because of being Christ's handmaiden, but Marthas were far more sincere.

Writers are always anxious, always on the run--from the telephone, from responsibilities, from the distractions of the world.

There was always a real reason for everything - why spoons tarnished, and jam furred, and people declined into God, or drink, or card games.

I knew I had done something awful. I had killed love, before I even knew the enormity of what love meant.

When you fall in love, it is spring no matter when. Leaves falling make no difference, they are from another season.

Wherever there were horses or ponies the mushrooms always sprang up.

I'm a tuning fork, tense and twanging all the time.

Oh, love, what an unreasoning creature it grew to be.

shadows of love, inebriations of love, foretastes of love, trickles of love, but never yet the one true love.

That is the mystery about writing: it comes out of afflictions, out of the gouged times, when the heart is cut open.

Darkness is drawn to light, but light does not know it; light must absorb the darkness and therefore meet its own extinguishment.

If the Holy Communion touched my teeth, I thought that was a mortal sin

In our deepest moments we say the most inadequate things.

For me to write I have to be, a, alone, and b, know that nobody is going to question me. I write the way a thief steals; it's a little covert.

Writers, however mature and wise and eminent, are children at heart.

I'm an Irish Catholic and I have a long iceberg of guilt.

Money talks, but tell me why all it says is just Goodbye.

The vote means nothing to women. We should be armed.

Sometimes one word can recall a whole span of life.

In a way Winter is the real Spring - the time when the inner things happen, the resurgence of nature.

Ordinary life bypassed me, but I also bypassed it. It couldn't have been any other way.Conventional life and conventional people are not for me.

We all leave one another. We die, we change - it's mostly change - we outgrow our best friends; but even if I do leave you, I will have passed on to you something of myself; you will be a different person because of knowing me; it's inescapable.

Love . . . is like nature, but in reverse; first it fruits, then it flowers, then it seems to wither, then it goes deep, deep down into its burrow, where no one sees it, where it is lost from sight, and ultimately people die with that secret buried inside their souls.